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How to Talk About Adoption, Identity, and Belonging with Kids | Nefertiti Austin | A Kids Co.

Raising Us: A Parenting Podcast | Jun 02 2026 | 00:22:57

Adoption is a lifelong process of identity and belonging, and how parents talk about it with our kids matters from the very beginning. Nefertiti Austin, author of Motherhood So White and a mother of two adopted kids, joins Elise Hu to share her personal path to adopting, why she chose to adopt within her own community, and the mindset she carries through parenthood. Nefertiti offers practical guidance for not only adoptive parents, but parents considering adoption or simply talking to kids about it. Together, Nefertiti and Elise discuss the biggest takeaways from adoption, how to normalize adoption in everyday lives, and how to stay grounded when conversations get difficult.Β 


Key Takeaways


Adoption is a very intentional way of stepping into parenthood.


Normalize adoption by finding and pointing out the role models around you.


Kids have enough love in their hearts for both their biological and adoptive parents.


Approach conversations with curiosity, honesty, and transparency.


Navigating adoptive parenthood is just as much a journey as navigating biological parenthood.


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Raising Us | Parenting Podcast for Kids, Tweens, & Conscious Caregivers


Award-winning journalist Elise Hu (TED Talks Daily, Forever35) hosts Raising Us, a parenting podcast for grownups raising Big-Question Kids. From puberty and identity to tech and body image, each episode gives you too…